Yet a prince should be slow to believe rumors and to commit himself to action on the basis of them. He should not be afraid of his own thoughts; he ought to proceed cautiously, moderating his conduct with prudence and humanity, allowing neither overconfidence to make him careless, nor overtimidity to make him intolerable. Here the question arises: is it better to be loved than feared, or vice versa? I don't doubt that every prince would like to be both; but since it is hard to accommodate these qualities, if you have to make a choice, to be feared is much safer than to be loved. For it is good general rule about men, that they are ungrateful, fickle, liars and decievers, fearful of danger and greedy for gain.
Imitation
Yet my mother should be on time to make it to Thanksgiving dinner and commit herself to this on behalf of the family. She should not be late cooking her own dish; she ought to proceed quickly, planning accordingly, allowing neither time to make her careless, nor perfection to make her very slow. Here the question arises: is it better to be late and despised or on time and loved? I don't doubt that everyone cooking for Thanksgiving would like to be on time; but since it is hard for my mother to accommodate this quality, if she had to make a choice, it is much safer to be on time than be late. For it is good general rule about family on Thanksgiving, that they are hungry, emotional, tired, and anxious, fearful of being let down and greedy for a good family dinner.